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RECOGNIZE YOUR HURTS, PAIN AND CHOICES The first step is to pay attention to yourself and learn how to take charge and control of YOU. Stop focusing so much on your partner and start looking at yourself. How do you feel, what are you thinking, what are you doing and saying? Learn and discover more about you and the choices you have. You are not stuck, you can change! You can learn to think differently, feel differently and act differently. Will it be easy? I can’t promise that. Will it be good? Absolutely. Becoming aware is the first step to making [...]

Are you experiencing a difficult, unpleasant, awkward, negative, hurtful or harmful situation, event or person? Here are some questions I’ve asked myself that have helped me through some hard times. What am I thinking? Am I believing the truth, lies or some faulty conclusion from the past? What am I feeling? Am I feeling what I need to feel?  What am I afraid of? How is this affecting me? Do I notice any physical sensations or tension in my body? Am I getting worked up? What can I do to calm down or soothe myself that in the end isn’t hurting [...]

Are you tired of trying to fix your spouse and getting nowhere? You never will. That’s because you are trying to fix the wrong person! Focus on fixing, changing, correcting and taking control of yourself. FIX Focus on managing yourself. What improvements can you make on yourself? What can you change or do differently? What attitude adjustments do you need to make? What thoughts do you need to alter? What faulty beliefs do you need to let go of and what do you need to align to the truth. Take care of yourself and let your partner take care of himself. [...]