Resources

Monica would like to share some of the books and websites that have been a benefit to her personally and to her marriage relationship.

NOTE: We do not necessarily endorse all the contents of each website.

FOR SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVORS.

Rachel Grant is an online coach for survivors of sexual abuse. https://www.rachelgrantcoaching.com/

Engel, Beverly. It Wasn’t Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion.

Working through the book with my counselor was most beneficial for me.

Heggen, Holerread, Carolyn. Sexual Abuse in Christian Homes and Churches

FOR RELATIONSHIP/MARITAL ABUSE.

I highly recommend https://leslievernick.com/ for any women in an abusive relationship or thinks she may be. Leslie is an excellent Biblical Counsellor and I have gone through her Conquer Program. She also has a training for church leaders and counsellors at https://leslievernick.com/counselors/

Chris Moles is a a Pastor and Biblical Counselor who helps churches and families confront the evil of domestic violence and promote healthy, God-honoring, relationships. I also recommend his website: http://www.chrismoles.org/ Reducing violence against women by addressing the heart of men.

Chris also offers training for church leaders and people helpers through Peace Works University. He also has a Men of Peace program to help men change their destructive patterns.

Focus Ministries is a Faith Based Domestic Violence Help for Women and Families.
https://www.focusministries1.org/

Mary J. Yerkes has an outstanding series of articles with Focus on the Family:

I want to recommend this website for their book list.

Recommended Books

http://eaandfaith.blogspot.com/2009/11/recommended-reading-for-emotional-abuse.html

Here is a list of books, I personally recommend and have in my library.

Bancroft, Lundy. Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Bancroft, Lundy. Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That? Encouragement for Women Involved With Angry and Controlling Men.
Bancroft, Lundy and Patrissi, Jac. Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can- and Should-Be Saved.
Branson, Brenda and Silva, Paula J. Violence Among Us: Ministry to Families in Crisis.
Brewster, Susan, M.S.S.W. Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Family and Friends of Abused Women.
Carter, Les, Dr. Imperative People: Who Must Be In Control.
Evans, Patricia. The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond.

Forrest, Joy. Called to Peace: A Survivor’s Guide to Finding Peace and Healing After Domestic Violence.
Fortune, Marie. Keeping the Faith: Guidance for Christian Women Facing Abuse.
Hegstrom, Paul. Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse.
Hunt, June. Domestic Violence: Assault on a Women’s Worth, Verbal and Emotional Abuse: Victory Over Verbal and Emotional Abuse. Victimization: Victory Over the Victim Mentality.
Miller, J. Keith. Compelled to Control: Recovering Intimacy in Broken Relationships.
Moles, Chris. Heart of Domestic Abuse: Solutions for Men Who Use Control and Violence in the Home
Vernick, Leslie. The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope.

Mental Health:

Dr. Caroline Leaf is a researcher and cognitive (mind) scientist. She teaches on mind-brain-body connection and mental health. https://drleaf.com/

https://livewellwithsharonmartin.com/

Recovery International offers a cognitive behavioral training method developed by the late neuropsychiatrist Dr. Abraham A. Low. It’s a self-help mental health support group, that has meetings world-wide. https://recoveryinternational.org/

Books relating to mental health:

Hunt, June. Anger: Facing the Fire Within, Dysfunctional Family: Making Peace with Your Past, Codependency: Balancing an Unbalanced Relationship, Forgiveness: The Freedom to Let Go, Self-Worth: Discover Your God-Given Worth.
Scazzero, Geri. The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life.
Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: It’s Impossible to be Spiritually Mature While Remaining Emotionally Immature.
van der Kolk M.D., Bessel.The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

One WHOLE individual plus One WHOLE individual equals a loving and healthy relationship.

Books related to relationships and marriage

Beattie, Melody. Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time.

Chapman, Gary. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.

Johnson, Sue, Dr. Hold Me Tight.

Johnson, Sue, Dr. and Sanderfer, Kenneth.Created for Connection: The “Hold Me Tight” Guide for Christian Couples.

Silk, Danny.Keep Your Love On: Connection, Communication and Boundaries.

Eggerichs, Dr. Emerson. Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

Relationships and Marriage:

https://marriagemax.com/ by Mort Fortel. Marriage Fitness Bootcamp. Not intended for couples in an abusive relationship. Trust me. I/we ignored the warning. It doesn’t work because abuse is not a marriage problem. Please consider getting professional help when you need it. You are both worth it.

https://www.heartsintrueharmony.com/ by Katie and Gay Hendricks

https://fiveminuterelationshiprepair.com by Sue Campbell PhD. and John Grey

https://coachjackito.com/ Marriage and Relationship Coach